When most people hear the word “alimony,” they automatically think of payments made after a legal divorce. But what happens when a long-term couple breaks up without ever getting married — and one partner is left financially dependent on the other? That’s where palimony comes in.
At Brian D. Perskin & Associates P.C., we believe in helping our clients understand all of their rights — married or not. Whether you’re seeking support after a breakup or defending against a claim, understanding how palimony works in New York and beyond can make all the difference.
What Is Palimony?
Palimony, also playfully referred to as “pal alimony” — is financial support paid by one partner to another after a long-term, non-marital relationship ends. While alimony is typically ordered by a divorce court, palimony arises from civil contract law rather than family law. It’s not guaranteed and it’s not automatic, it depends on whether an agreement (explicit or implied) between partners existed.
The term itself was coined in the 1970s during the high-profile case of Marvin v. Marvin, in which actress Michelle Triola sued her longtime partner, actor Lee Marvin, claiming he had promised to financially support her for life. Although she ultimately didn’t win the case, the lawsuit established that non-married partners can seek financial relief in certain situations.
Palimony vs. Alimony: What’s the Difference?
While the concepts sound similar, palimony and alimony are legally distinct:
| Factor | Alimony | Palimony |
| Legal Basis | Divorce/family law | Civil contract law |
| Applies To | Married couples | Unmarried cohabiting partners |
| Proof Required | Based on marriage | Proof of agreement or implied contract |
| Enforceable in Family Court? | Yes | No (typically civil court) |
In short: alimony is a right under divorce law, while palimony is a potential remedy under contract law.
What’s the Legal Basis for a Palimony Claim?
Courts do not recognize palimony as a statutory right. Instead, a claim must be based on a contract — either written, oral, or implied. To have a viable palimony case, you generally must prove the following:
- Cohabitation: You and your partner lived together for an extended period.
- Promise or Agreement: There was a promise of financial support, property sharing, or long-term care.
- Reliance: You relied on that promise to your detriment, such as quitting your job, raising children, or supporting your partner’s career.
- Injustice: Denying support would be unjust or inequitable given your contributions.
Even without a written agreement, you may still have a case if there’s enough evidence of an implied contract. This could include text messages, emails, joint bank accounts, testimonies from friends or family, or a shared lease or mortgage.
Famous Cases That Shaped Palimony
Beyond Marvin v. Marvin, several celebrities have found themselves entangled in palimony lawsuits, bringing attention to the issue:
- Peter Frampton was sued by his former partner who gave up her job to support him.
- Rod Stewart settled a palimony claim filed by Britt Ekland.
- Clint Eastwood was sued for $70 million by longtime partner Sondra Locke after a 14-year relationship.
- Martina Navratilova settled with her ex-girlfriend in 1992 after a publicized palimony case.
These cases show that while outcomes vary, courts are willing to entertain palimony claims under the right circumstances, especially when the parties shared assets or lived together for years.
Does New York Recognize Palimony?
Yes — but cautiously. New York doesn’t have specific laws guaranteeing palimony. However, the courts may enforce agreements between unmarried partners if they’re:
- Clear and specific
- Supported by evidence
- Independent of sexual or romantic arrangements
New York courts have ruled that vague or informal oral agreements usually don’t hold up. So, if your ex-partner promised to support you financially but there’s no written documentation or significant corroborating proof, your case may face an uphill battle.
Still, there are circumstances where you could prevail. For instance, if you helped build a business, took care of the home, or supported your partner’s career under the promise of financial security, a strong case might be made.
How Can I Prove a Palimony Agreement?
Here’s what can help strengthen your claim:
- Cohabitation records – Leases, mortgages, or mail at the same address.
- Financial records – Joint accounts, shared bills, or large contributions to assets like a home or car.
- Communications – Emails, texts, letters, or social media messages referencing financial promises.
- Witness testimony – Friends or family who heard your partner make promises.
- Sacrifices made – Career changes, relocation, or unpaid work that benefited your partner.
The more you can document the partnership and your contributions, the better your chances of success.
What If I’m the One Being Sued?
Palimony isn’t just for those seeking support — it also affects those being pursued for it. If your former partner is threatening legal action, your defense will likely revolve around the lack of a valid contract, financial independence of the other party, or lack of cohabitation.
You should gather:
- Evidence showing you did not cohabit long-term
- Proof of financial independence (separate bank accounts, leases, etc.)
- Written communication that contradicts any claim of support
- Witnesses who can dispute alleged promises
Having a skilled attorney on your side can make or break your case, especially when interpreting what does or does not qualify as a “contract.”
Can a Cohabitation Agreement Prevent Palimony?
Yes, and it’s highly recommended. A cohabitation agreement is essentially a contract that spells out financial responsibilities, property rights, and expectations during and after the relationship. Think of it as a prenup for unmarried couples.
These agreements can:
- Define who owns what
- Establish financial arrangements
- Set expectations for support if the relationship ends
- Limit or waive palimony claims
In New York, courts are more likely to enforce a written cohabitation agreement than a verbal promise.
Should You Pursue a Palimony Claim?
Deciding to file a palimony claim isn’t easy. Emotionally, you may be grieving the end of a long relationship. Financially, you may be worried about how to support yourself. Legally, things can get complicated — fast.
If you:
- Lived with your partner for several years
- Made significant personal or financial sacrifices
- Were promised support or compensation
- Helped build shared wealth
…then a palimony claim might be worth pursuing. But you’ll want to act quickly — there may be time limits for filing based on breach-of-contract rules.
Hire Our Manhattan or Brooklyn Family Attorneys
Whether you’re seeking support or defending yourself, palimony claims can be legally and emotionally complex. At Brian D. Perskin & Associates P.C., we’re here to help you navigate every step with clarity, compassion, and strategic expertise.
With decades of experience handling high-conflict family law cases across Brooklyn and Manhattan, we understand the nuances of contract law, cohabitation rights, and support claims.
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