Divorce has lasting effects on everyone associated with it. It isn’t just the spouses who suffer, it’s also incredibly hard on children. To them, their whole world is collapsing. Here are a few key ways to be a better parent after a divorce.
1. Be a Better Co-Parent
While you and your ex might have broken up, you are still a family, because you share children. You need to respect this bond, regardless of how you may feel about it.
Therefore, if there is anything that is happening that’s important to your children, make sure you are there, if possible. You both need to show your children that while you might not be together anymore, you are willing to continue as a family. This means respecting your ex, sharing information with them about games, parties, and plans that are important to your children so that you both remain active in your children’s lives.
Being a good co-parent also means being willing to share your children with your ex. After all, they are his/her children too.
2. Be Consistent
Consistency is key, especially when it comes to kids. This is especially true after a divorce. While your children may feel like everything in their world is crashing down, you need to be a source of stability. Stability in this respect means, knowing that your love is unconditional for them. Be the rock that they depend on.
Consistency also means being reliable and dependable. They may not be able to count on much, but they can count on you. This goes a long way in fostering your relationship and helping all of you navigate the difficult waters of life post-divorce.
3. Be Honest
Nobody likes dishonesty. This is especially true for kids and parents. Your children can smell a parent’s lie a mile away. When you are untruthful with your children, you plant the seed of mistrust in their minds. People who frequently lie often lose sight of what is really important – and right now it’s your kids.
The job of a parent is never easy but being forthright and honest is one trait that makes it all a whole lot easier. Build that trust with your kids and your relationship can weather the difficulties of divorce.
Contact an Experienced New York Divorce Attorney Today
Divorce is never an easy decision. This is especially true if there are children involved. While filing for divorce can be a difficult decision, choosing the right attorney doesn’t have to be. Brian D. Perskin & Associates P.C. is one of the most trusted names in New York when it comes to divorce. Brian and his experienced team are aggressive, intelligent and strategic. They work diligently with clients and customize representation strategies to fit individual needs. So if you’re looking for a divorce attorney who will fight for you, call Brian D. Perskin & Associates P.C. today at 718-875-7584 for your free consultation and learn why we’re New York’s premier divorce law firm.