De-Escalating Family Issues During the COVID-19 Quarantine Brian D. Perskin & Associates
Tips to De-Escalate Family Issues During the COVID-19 Quarantine

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The COVID-19 pandemic has created stress for people on many levels. It’s no wonder that many people are having fights. The stress levels have reached a boiling point and, as a result, relationships are suffering. While you may feel the need to pick up the phone and call a New York family law lawyer to rectify your situation, first consider ways to de-escalate your family issues. 

Remain Calm

When you’re caught up in the heat of the moment, remaining calm is the last thing on your mind. Consider this: life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. When you’re facing a potential fight with a loved one, close your eyes and take a deep breath through your nose and exhale through your mouth for a count of three. Then do it for a count of five, followed by a count of 10. Simply taking these three deep breaths is a great way to bring your heart rate down and get you back to thinking rationally.

Don’t Take Sides

It’s important when your family is having a fight to not take sides. Taking sides can lead to hurting your children’s feelings or those of your spouse. If you don’t have children, taking sides by saying “I’m right, and you’re wrong” is a surefire way to throw a wall up between you. It’s like the old saying goes, there are three sides to every story: your side, my side, and the truth. Keep this in mind when arguing to avoid making things worse and to keep everyone cool, calm, and collected.

Keep Your Statements Neutral

As any New York family law lawyer will tell you, it’s best to keep your statement neutral. Whether you’re in the middle of mediation or sitting across from each other at the kitchen table, think of every conversation as a negotiation where both parties need to feel as though they are being heard, that you understand their needs, and that you’re helping them in some way.


If you feel that your situation is too complicated to handle on your own, then perhaps a New York family law lawyer is what you need. They do more than just divorce. A New York family law lawyer provides a wide range of services. Mediation is the most common way to resolve a dispute. Sometimes the parties involved work with a trained mediator with everyone in the same room, or the parties and their respective attorneys are separated in different rooms, with the mediator being the middle-man to facilitate settlement offers.

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Brian D. Perskin & Associates P.C. is a New York City law firm that handles all types of divorce and family law issues, including contested divorce, complicated matrimonial and custody cases, prenuptial and separation agreements, uncontested divorce, spousal support, visitation, and domestic violence.

Our highly skilled legal team has over 40 years of collective experience serving clients throughout New York City as well as Brooklyn, Queens, Manhattan, and the Bronx. Contact us online or give us a call at (718) 752-7426 for your free consultation and learn why we’re New York’s premier divorce law firm.

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